I smoke, which isn’t a good habit I admit but I don’t smoke in the house, I always stand in the garden.

I have just been outside (11pm 2nd November 2008), as I was stood there in the dark I heard a womans voice, she was talking  on her cell phone (I wasn’t eaves dropping she was talking in a normal voice no further than 30 feet away), she’s one of my neighbors and she has just met a guy at the local bar TODAY!

She said to the guy on the phone that she’d had a great time and felt like she was a teenager again. She also described her husband as a lazy S.O.B who would probably be in the house watching TV and probably wouldn’t notice her come home anyway. She went on to ask the guy on the phone if he was married (two marriages to wreck if he is), she also asked him how many kids he has and their ages…

She was so happy about having sex with him in his car (her actual words were “I hope I didn’t moan too loud in the car, If anyone had seen us they would have thought we were making a porn film”) that she wanted to know when she could see him again.

She then went discussed when her husband was working andwhat they could do next time they met.

All of this conversation took place in the middle of the street only 100 yards away from her home…

This is a prime example of a cheating wife, she couldn’t wait to talk to him again and was so open about it that she’s certain to get caught.

Checking her mobile and redialing the last number or checking her texts when she’s not around would be a great idea (if he has any clue)

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The image of your spouse engaging in red hot sex with someone else rips your heart out with anger.

You will likely experience two kinds of intense emotions when you find out your other half is having an affair.

You end up with feelings of incredible despair and sadness, when you keep asking yourself “why did this happen”; alternated by incredible feelings of anger and rage at the fact that it did happen.

Once you get over the initial shock, most of us end up focusing on the sexual act only and are blind to the emotional implications and reasons of why the affair happened.

It is a very tough pill to swallow. I’ve been there…so I know!

Your mind starts racing around to figure out how it happened. Was I not good enough in bed? Was he or she just drunk and had little self control? Is my spouse just weak minded?

The reality is that while your mind’s racing around frantically focusing on the sex, affairs usually happen because of needs not being met other than sex.

That doesn’t mean you should start to blame yourself. But you do need to look deeper into the emotional reasons for which your partner many have strayed.

It is rarely just lust that makes your husband or wife seek out intimacy in the arms of another. Most affairs happen as a result of emotional needs not being met in one’s current relationship, which eventually culminate in the physical act of sex.

But it takes a lot of courage to push your overwhelming feelings of hurt and betrayal on the back burner and to try and look at your relationship as a whole and not just your partner sleeping with someone else.

If you have been cheated on, there are two ways that we deal with it. Some will instantly call it a day and some will still want to work it out.

It’s funny how things change when affairs actually do take place. You can’t imagine how many men and women I’ve met who without hesitation claim that if their spouse ever cheated they would immediately leave him or her. But when it does actually happen, a lot of them still want to make it work.

It is beyond the scope of this article to delve into the complexity of those of you who want to survive the affair. But I will share my thoughts on how, should you choose to stick it out, can do so by reducing the hurt and uncertainty during the process.

I’ll end on this note….and say that while it’s only natural for all of us to be completely consumed by the betrayal of the physical part of the affair, it is the emotional side that you really need to look at. But is it easy? Heck no!

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While they may not be conclusive, you are sure to get a clue in the right direction. Although there are several observations you can make in your partner, below is a list of the 10 most common signs your husband or wife maybe cheating on you.

Do you see any changes between the sheets? – A common misconception that many have is that if their partner is cheating, they will be not want to have sex with you. This is simply not true. Some of the changes that should alert you, are decreased interest in sex, increased interest, more aggressive in bed and probably the biggest red flag being him or her wanting to try new sexual positions.

Can you “sniff” out infidelity? – Pay attention when your spouse comes home smelling of a perfume other than his or her own; or any other smell, like tobacco etc which are clearly not their own.

Does it “ring” foul play? – In our day and age no affair can last without communication on the phone. Look out for sudden changes in the pattern of phone behvior, whether it’s the sudden need for a new cell phone, mysterious calls at unexpected times. You may notice your partner getting nervous when recieving certain phone calls…needing to go out of the room to answer a call etc.

Look for the paper trail – When one has an affair more often than not the expenses to support their hidden cheating life comes with more expenses. Watch out for unknown expenses on credit bills or reciepts left in his/her pockets.

Mood swings – Has your other half started to display errectic mood swings. Apparently needs more “space for themselves”. They become more hostile and argumentative.

Where are they? – Is your spouse suddenly going off on lengthy errends? You notice they have recently picked up “hobbies” or are spending a lot more time with friends. Making a lot of excuses for abrupt changes in their routine.

Don’t I look good? – Is your boyfriend or girlfriend paying more attention than usual to their appearance than before. Are they all of a sudden going on a fitness regime? This is a very common sign of a cheater!

What’s that mark? – Pay close attention to your partner when they are changing their clothes….do you spot any bit marks or scratches or any other unexplained marks on their body.

You don’t have access – While they may have been very open and casual about access to their email etc…now you’re restricted with what you can access.

It’s all in the eyes – One of the biggest signs of a cheating spouse is to avoid eye contact with you when they are lying about their whereabouts. If you see your other half always displaying fleeting eyes when answering you, it should raise a big “red flag”

Remember that you should never confront your husband or wife directly without having hardcore evidence or all you’ll end up getting is an aggressive denial.

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